Wednesday Works For MeI'm playing along with Rocks In My Dryer: Works For Me Wednesday . My tip this week has to do with encouraging kids not to pick on each other.
When kids are using unkind words or actions they are expected to apologize. But not just a quick, over the shoulder 'sorry'. I think that admitting wrong-doing is an important part of an apology-- it's so easy for a kid to be arrogant and not admit they did the wrong thing. Plus, I want the kids to actually ask for forgiveness. So at our house, an apology needs to include the words, "I was wrong to do that. Please forgive me."
When a seriously unkind thing has happened, or when a child offends over and over, I bring out the big guns. I assign him or her a job that belongs to the wronged sibling. Most of the time if a kid is acting stinky towards a sibling, it is a serious punishment to be required to make that child's bed, or fold his laundry.
Always, of course, I have to remember to be consistent about enforcing these types of consequences. But when I do, I find that it drastically decreases the unkind behavior in our home. So there ya have it. Works for me.